Mothers Day Tears

1 Peter 3 4 PaintingMothers Day



          Cards  Flowers and

                                        burnt toast

HAPPY happy JOY joy!

A  beautiful day to honor women of LOVE!

For others, Mothers Day may be painful and confusing; difficult to celebrate by children abused or neglected by their mothers or another female relative.

I was a victim  abuse and neglect by my mother and sister. And I am not alone.

God hates abuse.  In May 2003, I put God’s safety plan into action. I said good-bye to my abusive relationships and made a commitment to keeping my children safe and learn to live in truth.

In one single moment I went from hoping for a short life to praying for a long life.  My children and I were finally able to enjoy the unique gift of safety.

Psalm 4:8 says it best-

In peace I will lie down and sleep,

for you alone, Lord

make me dwell in safety.

Some, especially during holidays, question when I plan to “go back” (“forgive”); embrace a happy reunion.  They equate forgiveness with a happy reunion.

My family and I do not share the same reality.

God led me away from my abusers.

The Holy Spirit gives me the courage to continue to stay safe,  follow God’s path, forgive and love my abusers from a safe distance, accept a new family – and enjoy being a mom!

I never imagined God would give me the courage and the honor of sharing my story in the hope of inspiring others.

My children and I are safe. We are living a happily and safely ever after in Christ’s peace.

I would never put my family in the path of danger again.

I can’t imagine meeting with my mother in this life unless she had been in therapy for many years and the visit was supervised by a trained professional.  I don’t regret leaving.   I only regret not leaving sooner.

This Mother’s Day, I thank my mother for taking me to church, for bringing God into my life.

I thank my mother for loving me!

I am thankful God is preparing us for our happy reunion in eternity, to live and love one another without fear or pain.

If you or someone you know is being abused. Don’t remain silent. Get help! Report abuse!

Almighty God, I lift up victims of abuse; those who hurt and those who have been hurt.

Send your Spirit to your children!

Comfort them, hold them, wipe their tears and reassure them that the abuse is not their fault.

Let them know they are not alone.

Bring them help!  Send in the helpers! Help them to seek  help. Open their hearts to their rescuers.

Enable them to develop a safety plan and give them the courage to get safe.

In Jesus’ name.  Amen.


6 thoughts on “Mothers Day Tears

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  2. Amen! I am right there with you. Mother’s Day for me is a day to focus on my role as a mother, to be with my children and husband and His mum. It has been a difficult day for me in the past, as I have also made the decision to keep a safe distance from my mother. I also hear suggestions that I need to be “forgiving” and that it should be represented by allowing her to come back into the lives of my children and myself. God has freed me from believing that would be a testament to my forgiveness. I am so grateful to God for giving me the strength in my boundaries to keep my children and myself safe and away from the toxicity that follows my mother. I accept her, forgive her (for she has no idea what she does), and love her as best I can. By being the best version of me I can be with God’s help, and letting go of any bitterness that the enemy tries to trap me with. Happy Mother’s Day Dear Sister. Blessings to you!

    • Thank you Water Bearer! I knew I wasn’t alone! God through WordPress has brought me so many new brothers and sisters who share a similar past, embrace freedom and are blessed with a common future. Thank you! I love you! Thank you for sharing your story.


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